Is there someone you need to forgive?
Perhaps it’s yourself. Maybe you lost your cool with your child ... snipped at your spouse... handled a work situation poorly. I know we all struggle with this at one time or another as being fallible is part of being human. However, if we hold onto those negative emotions (anger, regret, guilt...) we are only hurting our own bodies and minds. Here are my thoughts:
* Acknowledge the wrong doing
* Apologize or try to make amends/Be open to an apology
* Make a plan for doing better/What did I learn from this
* Try to move on
** If we feel our minds are stuck on the situation try a positive mantra to occupy your mind and bring it back to reality
“I am strong ... I am kind ... sometimes I make mistakes... I will use this to grow and be better “ (insert any words appropriate to your situation)
* Also you could try sending positive thoughts/energy to the one you feel wronged you or you wronged. (*credit to my sister for this idea)
When I’ve made mistakes with my children I’ve tried to show them that the behavior wasn’t acceptable but at the same time trying to teach that we are all human and will at times make mistakes. So I try to teach them that we need to make a plan for doing better next time but not get stuck in negative patterns of beating ourselves up. Please visit my YouTube channel to view a children's meditation on mistakes "I can grow from my mistakes":
Do you have any tips for forgiving yourself or others? Please share in the comments!