wellness

Limiting Beliefs … What’s holding you back?

As we look at others and feel that spark of envy or we think about a long held dream that we’ve always had, we feel those thoughts creeping up.  The thoughts that sound like, “Good things never happen to me.” or “I’m not smart enough” or “I don’t have the right credentials” or “Things are always difficult for me”.  These are common examples of limiting beliefs that many of us hold.  Let us break down this term … Belief: a thought that we hold to be true … Limiting … something that holds us back, keeps us small … limits our experiences.  So, a limiting belief is a belief that we hold to be true (about ourselves or about how the world works) that holds us back from experiences or from achieving the things we’ve always wanted.  

Where do these beliefs come from?  They could originate from an experience in our childhood … maybe in first grade you made a picture and someone laughed at it, then from then on the limiting belief, “I can’t draw” began running in the background.  We also can acquire limiting beliefs from those around us.  We can hear our parents say things, our culture, our friends and take those beliefs on as truth.  For example, “Our family is not the type of people who do ___”, “We can’t afford to go ___”, “Money doesn’t grow on trees”, “Women can’t ____” 

These limiting beliefs can sometimes be common among many people or they can be completely unique to each person.  The thing they all have in common is they are negative, they are limiting, and they aren’t true.  Truth is only what you believe it to be.  It’s like the famous Henry Ford quote … “If you believe you can or believe you can’t … you are right”.    

These beliefs are tricky because often they are running on a loop in our unconscious mind.  The most powerful thing we can do for our healing and overall wellness is to start to identify these limiting beliefs.  If we can bring these beliefs into our conscious awareness now we have the power to address them and move forward.  Limiting beliefs may span across all areas of our lives.  You may have many in each area or maybe more in one area of your life.  I would recommend just selecting one or two areas of your life that you feel are most significant right now.  Once you learn the process of moving through limiting beliefs you can return at any point to address any others that are still lingering or any new ones that may arise.

So are you ready to move forward?  Are you ready for the life you’ve always wanted?  If so, check out my free worksheet to help you begin identifying these limiting beliefs here:

https://amandakugler.com/free-resources

Good luck!  

- Amanda

Needs: Dig deeper … Express more clearly … Let down our defenses

Did you ever have one of those arguments with someone where you quickly go to blaming?  Blaming the other for all the things they didn’t do for you … or ways they didn’t make you feel?  This is the time for us to stop and think about how in tune we are with our needs and how well we are expressing them?

I encourage you to take some time to be still and reflect on your needs and how you can better express them.  Sit or lay comfortably … close your eyes … start by placing your hands over your root chakra (base of your spine) and take a quiet moment to reflect on what some of your physical needs are.  Make sure to have pen and paper nearby to document what you discover.  Next, place your hands over your heart chakra (heart) and tune in to what some of your emotional needs are.  

Now on a daily basis are you structuring your day or effectively advocating so that most, if not all of these needs are being met.  

Sometimes when we feel let down we may default to the “I don’t need anyone” or “I can do it all myself”.  Maybe just because we CAN do it all doesn’t mean we “HAVE” to do it all ourselves.  Maybe just because we don’t NEED anyone doesn’t mean we can’t WANT to lean on others or share life with someone.  Maybe both of those statements are a defense mechanism for self-protection.  If we don’t let anyone in or don’t rely on anyone then they can’t disappoint us.  

Do you find yourself trying to do it all and then mad when you are left to do it all?  Maybe we need to dig deeper … express more clearly … and let down our defenses.  

Do you consider what you need?

Are you setting yourself up for success?

Does it make sense to be upset with someone else for not meeting your needs if you don’t have a clear idea of what they are and/or haven’t clearly expressed them?

- Amanda